I was 22 years old and was in my 2nd semester of my lab tech program. I was in (still am) this wonderful relationship with my boyfriend.
Everything was falling into plan until one day, I noticed my boobs were UNBEARABLE to touch and my boyfriend jokingly said “you should take a pregnancy test, and watch it be positive.” So I did…4 days after my birthday (Nov 4th to be exact) I took a pregnancy test. We both were shocked (why…I don’t know because we were NOT using protection AT ALL). So I took 2 more test… and sure enough it was positive! I burst into tears while studying for an exam I had the next day (which I BOMBED btw). My boyfriend did not take it too lightly and was drinking crown and playing guitar (which he NEVER does) and was also crying. It did not take long for him to make up his mind but for me, it was different. So he told me to take some time and think about EVERY possibility… every option. So I did…for 2 months.
I was so busy with school and trying to bring my grades up (the news just sent a SHOCK through my system) that I could not bring myself to make an appointment and it DID NOT help the fact that missing one day of school meant missing a whole week. The appointments had to be a Tuesday and Thursday, Tuesday lasting for 5 hours. After my last final (yes I actually passed that semester), I made the call.
I’m not going to go into details but the ultrasound tech did ask me if I wanted to 1. hear the heartbeat 2. get a copy of the sonagram. I did not want to do any of that;however, at the last minuite, I said yes to the sonagram in hopes that it would change my mind and my boyfriend’s as well. Well it didn’t.
The clinic was great and clean and they took care of me. It was not a horror story like I’ve heard (with the exceptions of Pro-life activists blocking the parking lot to get in and stopping everyone!). Afterwards, I was emotional. I cried everyday and kept my sonagram and to this day, I still have it. HOWEVER, I graduated college, moved in with my boyfriend whom I’ve been with for 3 years now and have a steady job right out of school. We both wanted to give our child everything and having one at that time, we would not have been able to give our child what it needed. I am not saying I don’t regret my decision, but I am still Pro-Choice because I learned by going to that clinic that EVERY WOMAN had a different story. There were women who had children and could not afford having one and women who were in law and medical school. There were women who have done this 4 times and some who chose NOT to go through with it.
If I was pregnant again, I probably would not go through this again; however, this is because I am 100% stable and can raise my child comfortably. It is hard some days but at the end of the day, I know I made the right choice.