04.01.2009
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Definitions of Road Blocks to Effective Communication
Parent-Child Communication Basics: An Education Program to Enhance Parent-Child Communication
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Examples |
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S-1. Judging | Making a judgment | You should …
You ought to … |
S-2. Rejecting | Giving no support | It’s your problem, not mine. |
S-3. Blaming/Criticizing | Placing fault on the other person | It’s your fault. |
S-4. Labeling | Calling names or words that are negative | Only a dummy would do it that way. |
S-5. Transferring | Not listening and jumping in with one’s own problems | Let me tell you what happened to me. |
S-6. Ordering | Giving solutions with no choices | You must do this now. |
S-7. Threatening/Bribing | Using threats or bribes to try to make someone do something | If you don’t do what I want …
If you do what I want, I’ll do this for you. |
S-8. Waffling | Not being clear and consistent in setting limits | Well, maybe …
We’ll see … I’ll think about it … |
S-9. Nagging | Persistently repeating orders or requests | I’ve told you a thousand times …
How many time do I have to ask you to … |
Nonverbal |
Examples |
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S-10. Acting | Using body language that sends negative messages or that rebuffs; being physically abusive | Crossing arms; not looking at speaker; walking away; tapping feet; shaking finger in face; hitting; kicking |