In Feb 2014, my husband was diagnosed with cancer. We got pregnant the night before he started chemo and hadn’t had sex until after he completed chemo. However, during the diagnostic phase he and I were exposed to radiation. Six weeks after we started chemo, we found out that I was pregnant.

I knew immediately that this child was high risk for birth defects. At 8 weeks post conception (10 weeks pregnant) I had an ultrasound. They estimated our conception date was 4-5 weeks. We also have two children, ages 3 and 7. We didn’t want our healthy, living children to endure the possible loss of a father and the stress of having a sibling with special needs. Neither of us regret the decision. I wanted to point out that it is sometimes a family decision.