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Being in a HEALTHY
RELATIONSHIP means …
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If you are
in an UNHEALTHY RELATIONSHIP …
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Loving and taking care
of yourself, before and while in a relationship.
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You care for and focus
on another person only and neglect yourself or
you focus only on yourself and neglect the other
person.
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Respecting individuality,
embracing differences, and allowing each person
to "be themselves."
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You feel pressure to
change to meet the other person's standards, you
are afraid to disagree, and your ideas or criticized.
Or, you pressure the other person to meet your
standards and criticize his/her ideas.
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Doing things with friends
and family and having activities independent of
each other.
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One of you has to justify
what you do, where you go, and who you see.
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Discussing things, allowing
for differences of opinion, and compromising equally.
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One of you makes all
the decisions and controls everything without listening
to the other's input.
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Expressing and listening
to each other's feelings, needs, and desires.
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One of you feels unheard
and is unable to communicate what you want.
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Trusting and being honest
with yourself and each other.
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You lie to each other
and find yourself making excuses for the other
person.
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Respecting each other's
need for privacy.
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You don't have any personal
space and have to share everything with the other
person.
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Sharing sexual histories
and sexual health status with a partner.
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Your partner keeps his/her
sexual history a secret or hides a sexually transmitted
infection from you or you do not disclose your
history to your partner.
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Practicing safer sex
methods.
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You feel scared of asking
your partner to use protection or s/he has refused
your requests for safer sex. Or, you refuse to
use safer sex methods after your partner has requested
or you make your partner feel scared.
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Respecting sexual boundaries
and being able to say no to sex.
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Your partner has forced
you to have sex or you have had sex when you don't
really want to. Or, you have forced or coerced
your partner to have sex.
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Resolving conflicts
in a rational peaceful, and mutually agreed upon
way.
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One or both of you yells and
hits, shoves or throws things at the other in an
argument.
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There is room for positive
growth and you learn more about each other as you
develop and mature.
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You feel stifled, trapped,
and stagnant. You are unable to escape the pressures
of the relationship.
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