What Would You Do for a Friend? Print

A Lesson Plan from Life Planning Education: A Youth Development Program (Chapter Four)

NOTE:  Life Planning Education (LPE) is currently being revised. The printed/for-sale version includes an older version of this lesson plan. Please make sure you have looked at the PDF of Life Planning Education before purchasing - that is the version that is available to buy. 

Purpose: To explore the limits of friendship.

Materials: Copy of the Leader’s Resource, What Would You Do for a Friend?; container

Time: 20-30 minutes

Planning Notes:
  • Either photocopy the Leader’s Resource and cut it into strips, or rewrite the scenarios onto strips of paper. Fold the strips and put them in a container.
  • Listen carefully to the participants’ responses to the scenarios in Step 6. If a response encourages negative behavior, do not let it pass. Stress that there is more than one way of looking at this scenario. Encourage critical thinking. Ask the group how many of them agree with the response. Challenge them to think about whether their parents and adults they trust would agree.
  1. Tell participants that after choosing and making friends, they should think about how far they would go to keep a friend.
  2. Explain that there are brief scenarios in the container. Each is an imaginary situation where someone upsets or causes concern in a close friend.
  3. Go over the poster of instructions for the activity
    • Draw a slip of paper from the container.
    • Read aloud the scenario on the paper.
    • Imagine that the friend and you are very close.
    • Describe what you would do if this happened to you.
  4. Ask participants to form pairs to work on this activity.
  5. Have one from each pair draw a slip from the container. Allow participants five minutes to prepare their responses.
  6. Ask volunteers to share their scenarios and responses with the group.
  7. Conclude the activity using the discussion points below.

Discussion Points:
  1. Have you thought much about the limits of your friendships? Name three things that you would not do with or for your friends, no matter what?
  2. Are there things you would rather not do but would if a close friend asked? Please explain.
  3. Would you do some things for certain friends, but not others? How do you decide?
  4. What about someone you are interested in or dating? Are there things you would do only for a romantic friend or dating partner, but not for your other friends? Please explain.

Life Planning Education, Advocates for Youth, Updated 2009.

Adapted with permission from Teen Outreach, Program: Youth Development Through Service and Learning, Association of Junior Leagues, International, New York, N.Y.

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