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Verbal |
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Examples |
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S-1. Judging |
Making a judgment |
You should …
You ought to … |
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S-2. Rejecting |
Giving no support |
It's your problem, not mine. |
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S-3. Blaming/Criticizing |
Placing fault on the other person |
It's your fault. |
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S-4. Labeling |
Calling names or words that are negative |
Only a dummy would do it that way. |
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S-5. Transferring |
Not listening and jumping in with one's
own problems |
Let me tell you what happened to me. |
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S-6. Ordering |
Giving solutions with no choices |
You must do this now. |
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S-7. Threatening/Bribing |
Using threats or bribes to try to make
someone do something |
If you don't do what I want …
If you do what I want, I'll do this for
you. |
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S-8. Waffling |
Not being clear and consistent in setting
limits |
Well, maybe …
We'll see …
I'll think about it … |
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S-9. Nagging |
Persistently repeating orders or requests |
I've told you a thousand times …
How many time do I have to ask you to … |
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Nonverbal |
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Examples |
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S-10. Acting |
Using body language that sends negative
messages or that rebuffs; being physically
abusive |
Crossing arms; not looking at speaker;
walking away; tapping feet; shaking finger
in face; hitting; kicking |
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